Are Judgments Keeping You Down?

Originally published December 15, 2018 on jamieschmidtlpc.com How do you motivate yourself to do better? For years whenever I felt like I was falling short on something, I would call myself as a “Stupid B****.” For many of us, that’s just how we’ve learned to talk to ourselves. Those who shaped us (parents, teachers, coaches,Continue reading “Are Judgments Keeping You Down?”

When Touch is Scary after Trauma

So I am not a touchy-feely person.   Another wonderful side effect of being a trauma survivor.  My energy is sacred to me & my body is my vessel for that energy.  Since it has a history of being violated, I’m extra protective of it.  I avoid big crowds where I cannot control people bumping into me.  I’m not aContinue reading “When Touch is Scary after Trauma”

When Love Doesn’t Fit the Facts: Part II Opposite Action

Originally posted February 7, 2019 jamieschmidtlpc.com/blog So what do you do when love does not fit the facts? When you realize the love you feel towards a person or relationship is not actually in your best interest? Of course DBT has a skill for that as well! Opposite action is rooted in the awareness that thereContinue reading “When Love Doesn’t Fit the Facts: Part II Opposite Action”

When Love Doesn’t Fit the Facts: Part I

Originally posted February 5, 2019 on http://www.jamieschmidtlpc.com/blogI started doing some website maintenance today & realized I wrote this exactly a year ago. Whoo life sure is cyclical! February is upon us. With Valentine’s Day just a little more than a week a way, I thought I would do a short series of posts about loveContinue reading “When Love Doesn’t Fit the Facts: Part I”

Letting Go of Toxic Love Schemas

A common byproduct of growing up in a toxic environment, is that you approach life with all these assumptions about people and relationships that are just flat out wrong.  As children we are constantly taking in data from our lives and using it to build schemas.  These schemas are basically blueprints – step by step instructionsContinue reading “Letting Go of Toxic Love Schemas”

Speak your Truth! (& clear your throat chakra)

One of my goals for the year is to work on opening my throat chakra. For those of you who don’t speak metaphysics, this is really just a whoo-whoo way of saying – I’m working on the skill of speaking my truth more freely. I like to think my verbal communication skills are on point.Continue reading “Speak your Truth! (& clear your throat chakra)”

Progress over Perfectionism – Letting Go of All or Nothing Thinking

I am a recovering perfectionist. Like I was the classic GT kid. I graduated from high school second in my class. I was 16 when I started at A&M as a sophomore. Those are things you just don’t accomplish without being highly motivated to do the best. Once I was past the regimented world ofContinue reading “Progress over Perfectionism – Letting Go of All or Nothing Thinking”

PTSD 101: Fight, Flight & Freeze – Surviving a Freeze

I had a full-blown PTSD Freeze moment yesterday.   I’ll be honest, it caught me off guard.  For the past month, I have not experienced any of the physical effects of my C-PTSD.  A change I contribute that to reaching the apex of my trauma work mid-December.  Physically I’ve felt the difference. I am no longer fighting night terrors orContinue reading “PTSD 101: Fight, Flight & Freeze – Surviving a Freeze”

Healing thru Hair?!? How my Dreads are Part of my Trauma Journey

My first semester at Texas A&M I regularly crossed paths with this beautiful red-headed woman with dreadlocks.  From the moment I saw her, my spirit was excited by her.  This lovely hippie soul STOOD OUT in the conservative, deep-south of the early 2000’s.  In my mind, she is embodiment of health and self-confidence.  For many years she has actedContinue reading “Healing thru Hair?!? How my Dreads are Part of my Trauma Journey”

Is Trauma Stopping you from Realizing your New Year Resolutions?

I think it’s the most amazing little nod from the universe that the end of the holiday shopping season coincides with the beginning of the new calendar year.  We go from the time of year when we feel least centered and balanced, to a time when (very briefly at least) we have a completely clean slate.  Continue reading “Is Trauma Stopping you from Realizing your New Year Resolutions?”